Swingers Dates vs Killing Kittens
An events brand and a dating site
Comparing Killing Kittens with Swingers Dates is a little like comparing a ticketed ball with a dinner reservation for four. Both can lead to a memorable night, but they work in completely different ways. One is a curated event that you apply to attend, with a crowd, a theme and a set of house rules. The other is a private arrangement between you and a couple or single you have chosen, at a time and place that suits everyone.
Knowing which of those experiences you want is the real decision. The details below come from Killing Kittens' homepage, its parties page and its terms and conditions, all read on 28 October 2026. Event calendars and policies change frequently, so always check its current pages.
How Killing Kittens describes itself
On its homepage, Killing Kittens describes a movement centred on women's pleasure and empowerment, with the women at its events, whom it calls Kittens, in control. Its terms describe the organisation as a private members' club focused on the pleasure of women, transgender and non-binary people. Membership, according to those terms, is open to people who are female, transgender or non-binary and aged 21 years old or over, and applications can be accepted or rejected at the club's discretion.
The terms explain that members apply for a member ticket to each event and may be able to buy guest tickets, and that sold-out events can offer a waitlist. At events, phones must stay on silent and are placed in privacy pouches or have their cameras covered, and no photography, filming or recording is permitted.
What the parties page listed
The Killing Kittens parties page, read on 28 October 2026, listed a Halloween retreat and a Halloween ball at secret locations in Berkshire, a birthday cabaret dining evening near Bracknell, a pre-New Year's Eve event in London, a cocktails evening in Manchester and a ball in Venice. Its footer also linked separate pages for London and New York parties, and the homepage promoted a Mediterranean cruise calling at ports including Barcelona, Monte Carlo, Florence, Portofino and Marseille.
That calendar gives a clear sense of the format: large themed occasions, often at undisclosed venues, attended by people who have been accepted as members or invited as guests.
What Swingers Dates offers
Swingers Dates is an online dating site rather than an events club. Couples and single people each create a profile, say who they would like to meet and search their own area. VIP brings fuller messaging, members' rooms for chatting and private group chats, and VIP Plus lifts your profile into view more often, with priority for messages and likes. Every price, in pounds and dollars, sits on our pricing page.
The emphasis is on finding a specific couple or single whose expectations match yours, agreeing boundaries in writing and meeting for a drink somewhere public. Whatever happens afterwards is decided by the people involved, not by an event schedule. The step-by-step guide to swinger dating covers that process in full.
Who decides who you meet
At a party, the guest list is shaped by the organiser's application process and by who buys a ticket for that night. You meet whoever is there, within the house rules.
On Swingers Dates, you choose. You read profiles, start conversations with the couples or singles who interest you, and decline anyone who does not feel right. Nobody is introduced to you without your consent, and you can block or report any profile that crosses a line. That degree of control can make a first experience far less daunting, particularly for a couple new to swinging.
Privacy at events and privacy online
Killing Kittens' terms set out strict rules for privacy at events, including pouched or covered phone cameras and a ban on recording. That protects everyone in the room on the night.
Swingers Dates protects privacy in a different setting: online, before and between meetings. You appear under a username, your location shows only as a nearby town, you decide which photos are public, explicit images are blurred until a viewer chooses to see them, and a reminder appears if a conversation drifts towards moving off the site. Our safety guide adds the personal habits that matter, such as using photos that never appear on your social media.
Eligibility and access
Under the Killing Kittens terms, only women, transgender and non-binary applicants aged 21 or over can hold membership, and the club reviews every application; partners and others attend as guests where its rules allow. That reflects its focus on women being in control of the experience.
Swingers Dates welcomes couples as well as women and men on their own, whether long in the lifestyle or only now wondering about it. On Swingers Dates, members must be 18 or over, and there is no application to approve. ID verification is optional, and you can ask anyone you plan to meet whether they have completed it.
Location and travel
The Killing Kittens calendar on 28 October 2026 centred on London, Berkshire and Manchester in the UK, with a ball in Venice and a Mediterranean cruise further afield, and its site menus also pointed to New York parties. Attending means travelling to the event on its date.
On Swingers Dates, you search the area you choose. Our UK overview and city guides for London, Manchester, Bristol, Essex and North Yorkshire cover local travel and the kind of discreet venue that suits a first drink, so you can plan a date close to home or around a weekend away.
Questions to settle as a couple first
Before choosing between a party and a date, talk through a few points at home. Would either of you feel uneasy in a room full of strangers, or would that energy thrill you? Is a theme or dress code part of the fun, or an extra layer of pressure? Do you want to know the people involved beforehand, through conversation, or would you rather meet them on the night? Your answers usually point clearly to one format or the other, and sometimes to trying both at different times.
Can the two work together?
They can. Enjoying the odd large event and arranging smaller, private dates in between is a perfectly workable mix. A dating site can be a way to meet people with whom you would feel comfortable at a larger occasion, or simply to enjoy something quieter and more personal.
If you use both, keep your usernames, photos and personal details separate, and respect the privacy rules of each. What happens at a private event stays there, and the same courtesy applies to anyone you meet through Swingers Dates.
Which might suit you
Killing Kittens may appeal if you want curated, themed parties with women in control, are comfortable with an application process and enjoy the idea of a large social occasion.
Swingers Dates may appeal if you would rather choose exactly who you meet, set your own boundaries in advance, start with a drink for two or four and arrange dates on your own schedule, anywhere in the UK or the wider English-speaking world.
Frequently asked questions
Could Swingers Dates replace Killing Kittens for us?
That depends on what you want, because it is a different kind of service. Killing Kittens' own pages describe a private members' club that runs parties and events, while Swingers Dates is a dating site for arranging one-to-one swinger dates with couples or singles you choose.
Who can become a Killing Kittens member?
Its terms, as read on 28 October 2026, restrict membership to women, transgender and non-binary people of 21 or older, and the club may accept or turn down any application.
Who can use Swingers Dates?
Any couple or solo adult with an interest in swinging, whether experienced or simply curious. Nobody has to apply for approval, and verifying your ID is a choice.
Are phones allowed at Killing Kittens events?
According to its terms, phones must be on silent and either placed in a privacy pouch or have the camera covered, and no recording is permitted at events.
Can I meet people from Swingers Dates at a party?
Swingers Dates is designed for arranging your own dates, usually starting with a drink in a public place. Where you go after that is up to you and the people you meet, provided everyone agrees.