How we put this together
We compared each site using only its own public website. We read the pages for SDC and Fab Swingers on 4 November 2026, and the pages for Swinging Heaven, SwingHub and Killing Kittens on 28 October 2026, when we wrote our individual comparisons of those sites. We have not used third-party reviews, star ratings or member counts, because we cannot check them. Sites change their features and prices often, so please check each one before signing up. We run Swingers Dates, so read our description of it with that in mind.
At a glance
| Site | What it is | Cost model, as stated by the site | Best for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Swingers Dates | Dating site for swinger dates | Profile at no cost; paid VIP and VIP Plus | Meeting one compatible couple or single near you |
| SDC | International lifestyle community and app | Sign-up and trial; paid tiers | Events, travel and a large social scene |
| Fab Swingers | British swinging community | No charge for membership or use; optional Site Supporter upgrade | Forums, chatrooms and member socials |
| Swinging Heaven | UK swinging website | Paid upgrade for full access | Chatrooms, cams, forums and listings |
| SwingHub | App and website | Premium subscriptions for extra tools | Couples who want every user identity checked |
| Killing Kittens | Members' club for parties | Membership by application; tickets per event | Curated parties and events |
Swingers Dates
Swingers Dates is our own site, built around arranging swinger dates. Couples and singles create a profile, describe who they would like to meet, search their area and talk in private messages, then meet somewhere public for a first drink. ID verification is optional, explicit pictures are blurred until a viewer opts in, private photos stay hidden until you share them, and other members see only a general area. VIP adds unlimited messages, deeper filters, members' chat rooms and private group chats, and VIP Plus adds extra visibility. One month of VIP costs £29.96 and full prices are on the membership costs page.
It suits couples who want a quieter, more direct route to a first meeting, without forums or party calendars to wade through. It does not list events and has no app-store app, though the mobile site can be saved to your home screen.
SDC
SDC's about page, read on 4 November 2026, says it started in 1999 as Swingers Date Club and now operates in over a hundred countries and six languages, with a website and an app for Apple and Google Play devices. It lists live video streaming, speed dating, member photos and videos, party and club listings, messaging and advanced search, along with groups, travel and SDC BNB. It invites visitors to sign up and start a trial, and paid tiers include its SDC Premium content.
SDC suits couples who see the lifestyle as a social calendar of parties, clubs and travel. Read our full Swingers Dates vs SDC comparison.
Fab Swingers
Fab Swingers' about page, read on 4 November 2026, says it was founded in 2006 by a British swinging couple, does not charge for membership or use, and offers an optional Site Supporter upgrade. It lists profiles, private messages, forums, chatrooms and member-organised socials, and says it never uses fake profiles or bots. Members verify one another, for example on webcam, and message filters can block single men, profiles without photos and unverified members.
Fab Swingers suits couples who enjoy a busy, sociable community and prefer not to pay for the core service. Read our full Swingers Dates vs Fab Swingers comparison.
Swinging Heaven
Swinging Heaven's homepage, read on 28 October 2026, promoted a global chatroom where users can create rooms, live webcams, forums, stories, galleries, personal ads, groups and a directory of clubs and events, with a UK-based team and community moderators. Its terms described a paid upgrade for full access, charged on a recurring basis until cancelled.
Swinging Heaven suits people who want to spend time in the lifestyle online, chatting and browsing. Read our full Swingers Dates vs Swinging Heaven comparison.
SwingHub
SwingHub's homepage, read on 28 October 2026, described an app for iOS and Android as well as a website, with premium tools such as seeing who is nearby and a screenshot-blocking feature called Blackout. Its terms said nobody may use the service until they pass a check combining a government-issued photo document with a live selfie, and that both partners in a couple must verify.
SwingHub suits couples who want every person they talk to to have passed an identity check. Read our full Swingers Dates vs SwingHub comparison.
Killing Kittens
Killing Kittens describes itself as a private members' club built around hedonistic parties, with women in control and strict rules on cameras at events. Its parties page, read on 28 October 2026, listed events in Berkshire, London and Manchester and abroad, and its terms described an application process for membership.
Killing Kittens suits couples who want a curated party experience rather than one-to-one dates. Read our full Swingers Dates vs Killing Kittens comparison.
How to choose
Start with what you want your first experience to look like. If it is a drink with one couple in a pub near home, a dating site focused on profiles and private messages is the most direct route. If it is a party with lots of people, a club or a site with strong event listings makes more sense. If you want to learn from other swingers first, forums and chatrooms help.
Then think about privacy. Look at how each site handles photos, whether it shows your location, how verification works and how billing appears on your statement. Our safety guide explains what to check, and our guide to spotting fake couple profiles applies to every site on this list.
Finally, think about where you live. Our city guides cover London, Manchester, Birmingham, Leeds, Liverpool, Glasgow, Bristol and Southampton, and the UK overview explains how the scene fits together.
Using more than one site
Many British couples use two sites at once, perhaps a community site for socials and a dating site for arranging dates. That is perfectly reasonable. Use a different username and different photos on each, so the profiles cannot be linked, and keep conversations on the platform until you trust someone.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best swinger site in the UK?
It depends on what you want. For one-to-one dates, a focused dating site like Swingers Dates is a direct route. For forums and socials, Fab Swingers or Swinging Heaven may suit you. For parties, Killing Kittens or SDC's listings are built for that.
Which UK swinger sites check identity?
SwingHub's terms, read on 28 October 2026, require every user to pass an identity check. Swingers Dates offers optional ID verification, and Fab Swingers relies on members verifying each other.
Are there UK swinger sites that do not charge?
Fab Swingers says, on its about page read on 4 November 2026, that it does not charge for membership or use, with an optional paid upgrade. Most other sites on this list sell paid memberships for their main features.
Do I have to go to parties to be a swinger?
No. Many couples never go to a club or party and prefer arranging private dates with one other couple. Our article on swinger clubs and online dating compares the two.
How do I stay private on a swinger site?
Use a username, keep your face out of public photos until you trust someone, never share your exact address and check how billing appears on your statement. Every site on this list offers its own privacy tools, so read its help pages.