How we put this together
We read each site's own public pages on 4 November 2026 and used nothing else: no third-party reviews, star ratings or member counts, because we cannot check them. Where a site describes itself as the largest or the best, we say that it is the site's own claim. Features and prices change, so check each site before you sign up. We run Swingers Dates, so read our description of it with that in mind.
At a glance
| Site | What it is | Cost model, as stated by the site | Best for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Swingers Dates | Dating site for swinger dates | Profile at no cost; paid VIP and VIP Plus | Meeting one compatible couple or single near you |
| SDC | International lifestyle community and app | Sign-up and trial; paid tiers | Parties, clubs and lifestyle travel |
| Kasidie | Lifestyle social network | Basic account kept indefinitely; paid Elite upgrade | Events, groups and certified members |
| SwingLifestyle | Lifestyle community and app | Account at no cost; paid options | Forums, groups and a big travel calendar |
| AdultFriendFinder | Broad adult dating network | Registration at no cost; paid options | Wide adult dating beyond swinging |
| Feeld | App for open relationships | App at no cost; paid Majestic membership | Many relationship styles in one app |
Swingers Dates
Swingers Dates is our own site, built for arranging swinger dates. Couples and singles create a profile, describe who they would like to meet, search their area and talk privately, then meet somewhere public for a first drink. ID verification is optional, explicit pictures are blurred until a viewer opts in, private photos stay hidden until you share them, and other members see only a general area. VIP adds unlimited messages, deeper filters, members' chat rooms and private group chats; one month costs $42.81, and full prices are on the membership costs page.
It suits couples who want a direct, low-key route to a first meeting. It does not list events, and it has no app-store app, though the mobile site can be saved to your home screen. Our US overview covers how dating works across the country.
SDC
SDC's about page says it began in 1999 as Swingers Date Club and now reaches over a hundred countries in six languages, on its website and an app for Apple and Google Play devices. It lists live video streaming, speed dating, member photos and videos, party and club listings, messaging and advanced search, along with groups, travel and SDC BNB. Its footer names SDC Media LLC of Cary, North Carolina.
SDC suits couples who want a big social scene with parties and travel. Read our Swingers Dates vs SDC comparison.
Kasidie
Kasidie's about page says it was created by lifestylers and began in 2006 as an online magazine. Its FAQ says a basic account can be kept indefinitely, with an Elite upgrade for a monthly cost, and that profiles have no fields for real names or addresses. Its certification page describes three ways to be certified, by a sign photo, a vouch from a certified member or club owner, or meeting staff at an event, and says certified members get chat rooms, instant messaging and video chat.
Kasidie suits couples who want a social network with events, groups and a Rendezvous section for spontaneous meets. Read our Swingers Dates vs Kasidie comparison.
SwingLifestyle
SwingLifestyle's homepage calls it the world's largest swinger community, which is its own claim, and says SLS.com and Swinglifestyle.com are moving to a unified platform called Swing.com after nearly 25 years. It links forums, groups, club listings and articles, shows apps for the App Store and Google Play, and was full of cruises, resort takeovers, conventions and club meet-and-greets when we read it.
SwingLifestyle suits couples who see the lifestyle as travel and big events. Read our Swingers Dates vs SwingLifestyle comparison.
AdultFriendFinder
AdultFriendFinder's homepage calls it the world's largest dating and social network for adults, again its own claim, covering friendships, casual dating, relationships and alternative lifestyles, with adult chat, an instant messenger and live video on mobile. It states that it does not conduct criminal background screening, and that people in its photos and videos may not be actual members.
AdultFriendFinder suits people whose interests go well beyond swinging. Read our Swingers Dates vs AdultFriendFinder comparison.
Feeld
Feeld's about page describes an app for meaningful connections of any kind, from ethical non-monogamy to kink to relationship anarchy, founded over a decade ago. Profiles can be linked with up to five other people, and its trust and safety page lists optional photo verification, screenshot prevention, timed photos, nudity blur and a round-the-clock Safety Team. Downloading and using the app costs nothing, and Majestic is its paid membership.
Feeld suits couples and singles who want an app-first community for many relationship styles. Read our Swingers Dates vs Feeld comparison.
How to choose
Picture your first experience. If it is dinner with one couple in your own city, a dating site focused on profiles and private messages is the most direct route. If it is a resort takeover or a club night, a site with strong event listings is built for that. If you want to explore many relationship styles, a broad app gives you room.
Then look at privacy and verification. Check how each site handles photos and location, whether it offers verification, and how billing shows on your statement. Our safety guide explains what to check, and our guide to spotting fake couple profiles applies everywhere. Our article on the best swingers apps looks at mobile use in more detail.
Finally, think about where you are. Our city guides cover New York, Los Angeles, Las Vegas, Miami and Chicago.
Using more than one site
Plenty of American couples use one site for events and another for arranging private dates. That is fine. Use a different username and different photos on each so the profiles cannot be linked, and keep conversations on the platform until you trust someone.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best swinger site in the US?
It depends on what you want. For one-to-one dates, Swingers Dates is a direct route. For parties and travel, SDC, Kasidie and SwingLifestyle have strong event listings. For many relationship styles, Feeld is an app built for that.
Which US swinger sites have apps?
SDC, SwingLifestyle and Feeld all point to apps for Apple and Android devices on their own pages, read on 4 November 2026. Swingers Dates runs in your phone's browser and can be saved to your home screen.
Which sites verify members?
Kasidie offers certification, Feeld offers optional photo verification and Swingers Dates offers optional ID verification. AdultFriendFinder states that it does not run criminal background checks.
How old do you need to be?
Every site on this list is for adults. Swingers Dates members must be 18 or over, or 21 where state law requires it.
Is it safe to meet someone from a swinger site?
It can be, with sensible precautions. Meet first in a busy public place, tell a friend where you are going, keep your address private and leave whenever you feel uncomfortable. Our first-time etiquette guide covers what to expect.