How we put this together
Everything said about AdultFriendFinder on this page comes from its public homepage at adultfriendfinder.com, which we read on 4 November 2026. A link to its help pages took us back to the same homepage when we tried it, so we have stuck to what the homepage says. We have not used third-party reviews, and we do not repeat AFF's audience claims as facts. Please check AFF's own pages before you decide.
AdultFriendFinder in its own words
AFF's homepage calls it the world's largest dating and social network for adults and invites visitors into a community of open-minded adults. That is its own description, not a figure we can check. It says the platform covers friendships, casual dating and intimate relationships, from traditional dating to alternative lifestyles, and lists a diverse community, matching aimed at local connections and a space to explore desires and preferences.
For conversation, the homepage describes adult chat, an instant messenger, and live chats and video calls on smartphones and tablets. The signup form offers profile types for men, women and couples, including couples of a man and a woman, two women or two men.
The footer says the site is operated in the US by Various, Inc., in the UK by Ventnor Enterprise Limited and in the EU by Pixojay Ltd, with a copyright running from 1996 to 2026. It also includes two statements worth reading: that AdultFriendFinder does not conduct criminal background screening of its members, and that persons appearing in photographs and videos may not be actual members, with other data shown for illustration only.
What Swingers Dates offers
Swingers Dates exists for one thing: helping couples and singles who share an interest in swinging find each other and arrange a date. You create a couple or single profile, explain what you would like, search your area and talk in private messages. When everyone feels ready, you meet in a public place for a drink first, with no pressure for anything more.
VIP membership unlocks unlimited messages, fuller search filters, members' chat rooms and private group chats, and VIP Plus adds extra visibility with priority for your messages and likes. Full prices in pounds and dollars are on the membership costs page.
A broad network or a swinging site
The biggest difference is focus. AFF is built to serve many kinds of adult connection, so swinging couples share the space with people looking for very different things. That breadth can be useful if your interests are wide, but couples often find they spend time filtering out people who were never looking for a swap.
On Swingers Dates, everyone has signed up to a site about swinger dates. Couples, single women and single men all know the context before the first message, which makes it easier to talk openly about soft swap, full swap and boundaries. Our article on soft swap and full swap explains the terms if you are new.
Profiles and verification
AFF's homepage shows profile types for singles and couples, but it did not describe a verification process when we read it, so we have not described one. It does state that it does not run criminal background checks.
On Swingers Dates, ID verification is optional and open to every member. You can verify to build trust and ask a match to do the same before you meet. Staff moderate content and review every report. Our guide to spotting fake couple profiles explains the warning signs to look for on any site.
Chat and contact
AFF puts a lot of weight on live interaction: adult chat, an instant messenger, and live chats and video calls on mobile devices. If you enjoy spontaneous, real-time contact with lots of people, that may appeal.
Swingers Dates keeps things more private. Conversations happen in private messages, and VIPs can use members' chat rooms and private group chats where both halves of a couple can talk to another couple together. If someone pushes to move to another app too early, a prompt reminds you to take care.
Privacy
AFF's homepage did not set out privacy controls in detail. Its photo statement means you should not assume the faces in promotional images belong to members.
On Swingers Dates you appear under a username, and other members see only a general area, never an exact address. Private photos stay private until you choose to share them, and explicit pictures are blurred until a viewer opts in. Block and report are on every profile and conversation, and our safety guide covers meeting in person.
Cost
AFF's homepage invites you to register at no cost but does not list membership prices, so we do not quote any. Check AFF's own pages for current terms.
On Swingers Dates, one month of VIP costs £29.96 or $42.81 and one month of VIP Plus costs £34.24 or $51.39. Plans run from one week to twelve months; twelve-month plans are a single payment that does not renew, and shorter plans renew until you cancel. Billing appears under a discreet description.
Which suits you
AdultFriendFinder may suit you if you want a large, general adult network with live chat, video calls and room for many kinds of connection beyond swinging.
Swingers Dates may suit you better if you are a couple or single who specifically wants to arrange swinger dates, with optional ID verification, private group chats, blurred explicit photos and published prices. Members must be 18 or over, or 21 where local law requires it.
You can use both. Keep a different username and set of photos on each so the profiles cannot be linked. For more options, see our US roundup of swinger sites.
Frequently asked questions
Is AdultFriendFinder a swinger site?
AFF describes itself as a broad adult dating and social network covering friendships, casual dating, relationships and alternative lifestyles. Swinging is one part of that, rather than its sole focus.
Does AdultFriendFinder check its members' backgrounds?
Its homepage, read on 4 November 2026, states that AdultFriendFinder does not conduct criminal background screening of its members.
Can couples have a joint profile on both sites?
Yes. AFF's signup form lists couple profile types, and on Swingers Dates you can create a couple profile that both partners share.
Does Swingers Dates offer video calls?
No. Swingers Dates uses private messages, members' chat rooms and private group chats. Many couples prefer to move to a call only once they trust a match.
Which is better for a first swap?
That depends on what you want, but a site where everyone is there for swinging makes it easier to talk about boundaries early. Our first-time etiquette guide covers how a first meeting usually goes.